Everyone has heard about the “daddy daughter dance”. You know, the one where dads get all dressed up and take their little girls out to a dance or party. These are meant to help girls realize their worth, and a chance for dads to teach the girls how they should expect to be treated someday from the young men that later ask to take them out. I know some communities also have similar events for moms and their young men. Like many parents, we understand that we have a responsibility to teach our son how to treat a lady, so Conner and I have dates.
Last night we went on a date. I blocked off time on my calendar so that nothing could interfer. We got dressed up… well ok, I got dressed up. Conner wanted to wear his slick pants because he lost his belt. You see, Conner always wears slick pants. This is what he has always called athletic pants. It is very difficult to get him to wear jeans or dress pants. But after a short time arguing, I gave in. It would be a source of conversation at dinner. He got to choose where we ate and chose his favorite, Panda Express.
At dinner , conversation was not lacking . We talked about school, our upcoming vacation, and we talked about why it was sometimes important to wear something other than slick pants. We finished eating and we had a little time to kill, so we sat at Panda making up stories about the people that were eating, and played a riveting game of eye spy.
After dinner we went downtown to the Pikes Peak Center to see the acapella group Home Free. Something you should know about Conner is that he loves to sing, like his mama. We had recently gone to a John Denver tribute in Estes Park and he was less than impressed. He spent the whole concert asking when we could go home. ( #nothiscupatea#). His favorite group is Pentatonix, but we have not been able to catch them close enough to Colorado Springs to be able to see them. Our extended family saw them at the Iowa State Fair the day before school started here, and Conner was so upset that we couldn’t go with them. Such is life, right! So Home Free is a little more country, but I took a chance that he would like them. He not only liked them, he LOVED them! They put on a fabulous and engaging show. Their music was incredible! At one part of the concert, the beat boxer did a solo performance and we were amazed at how many sounds he could make with just his mouth! We clapped, we shouted, and we sang. A lot. And loud! At one point Conner’s voice was cracking! They were amazing! At the end of the concert, Home Free announced that they were going to be doing autographs. Conner looked at me and said,” Mom, can we stay for this?”To tell the truth, I said yes, because I didn’t want the evening to end!
To finish off our evening, we went to Josh and Johns, an ice cream shop in the downtown area. As we walked from our car to the shop, Conner held my hand 🙂 He got chocolate with sprinkles, and I got a peach smoothie, and then we shared. We listened all the way home to the CD we had bought at the concert, with the windows down, singing st the top of our lungs.
When we got home, his sweet dad had washed all the bedding and drawn a bath and had candles waiting for me. Yet another small act of love that Conner can learn from. Conner fell asleep on the floor of our bedroom!
Do you have dates with your kids? Moms with your boys, dads with your girls? One on one. They don’t have to be anything as elaborate as last night, but be intentional. Put them on your calendar and block off that time. Call them dates. Let your kids feel special. Give them your full attention. No phones, no interruptions. And over time, teach them about how they should treat the people they date, and what to expect from that person. Most importantly, create memories!
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