The Life in a Day

You can experience a day in your life, or you can experience the life in your day. Choose wisely.

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Date Night

Everyone has heard about the “daddy daughter dance”.  You know, the one where dads get all dressed up and take their little girls out to a dance or party. These are meant to help girls realize their worth, and a chance for dads to teach the girls how they should expect to be treated someday from the young men that later ask to take them out. I know some communities also have similar events for moms and their young men. Like many parents, we understand that we have a responsibility to teach our son how to treat a lady, so Conner and I have dates. 

Last night we went on a date. I blocked off time on my calendar so that nothing could interfer. We got dressed up… well ok, I got dressed up. Conner wanted to wear his slick pants because he lost his belt. You see, Conner always wears slick pants. This is what he has always called athletic pants. It is very difficult to get him to wear jeans or dress pants. But after a short time arguing, I gave in.  It would be a source of conversation at dinner. He got to choose where we ate and chose his favorite, Panda Express.

At dinner , conversation was not lacking . We talked about school, our upcoming vacation, and we talked about why it was sometimes important to wear something other than slick pants. We finished eating and we had a little time to kill, so we sat at Panda making up stories about the people that were eating, and played a riveting game of eye spy.

After dinner we went downtown to the Pikes Peak Center to see the acapella group Home Free. Something you should know about Conner is that he loves to sing, like his mama. We had recently gone to a John Denver tribute in Estes Park and he was less than impressed. He spent the whole concert asking when we could go home. ( #nothiscupatea#).  His favorite group is Pentatonix, but we have not been able to catch them close enough to Colorado Springs to be able to see them. Our extended family saw them at the Iowa State Fair the day before school started here, and Conner was so upset that we couldn’t go with them. Such is life, right! So Home Free is a little more country, but I took a chance that he would like them. He not only liked them, he LOVED them! They put on a fabulous and engaging show. Their music was incredible! At one part of the concert, the beat boxer did a solo performance and we were amazed at how many sounds he could make with just his mouth! We clapped, we shouted, and we sang. A lot. And loud! At one point Conner’s voice was cracking! They were amazing! At the end of the concert, Home Free announced that they were going to be doing autographs. Conner looked at me and said,” Mom, can we stay for this?”To tell the truth, I said yes, because I didn’t want the evening to end! 

To finish off our evening, we went to Josh and Johns, an ice cream shop in the downtown area. As we walked from our car to the shop, Conner held my hand 🙂 He got chocolate with sprinkles, and I got a peach smoothie, and then we shared. We listened all the way home to the CD we had bought at the concert, with the windows down, singing st the top of our lungs.

When we got home, his sweet dad had washed all the bedding and drawn a bath and had candles waiting for me. Yet another small act of love that Conner can learn from. Conner fell asleep on the floor of our bedroom! 

Do you have dates with your kids? Moms with your boys, dads with your girls? One on one. They don’t have to be anything as elaborate as last night, but be intentional.   Put them on your calendar and block off that time. Call them dates. Let your kids feel special.  Give them your full attention. No phones, no interruptions. And over time, teach them about how they should treat the people they date, and what to expect from that person. Most importantly, create memories!

#thelifeinaday# #datenight# #makingmemories#

 

The Power of Love

The power of love is really amazing. I see it in my own family and in the world around us. We all react better when we are faced with something in love rather than anger, blame or hatred. Criticism seems kinder and easier to take in, problems seem smaller and more surmountable.  I have had several moments this week to witness the power of love and how it changes the situation, and how it changes people.

How to Handle the Bully

Usually, when I pick Conner up in the car line he is chatty and excited to share his day with me. Yesterday was different. He was quiet and reserved. In a nutshell, he said that another child said something mean to him in front of several other kids. He was embarrassed and his feelings were hurt. We had similar issues with this same child at the end of the year last year. My initial reaction was anger. I wanted to call the teacher. Have a conference with the other boys parents. I wanted him to be in trouble. But how does that help Conner? It doesn’t.  Instead, I decided to help my son learn about the power of love. We discussed that often people demean others because they are missing something in their own lives like confidence, kindness or love. I reminded Conner how proud we are that he treats other kids with kindness and respect. Then we talked about how he could handle a similar situation in the future. Lastly, I challenged Conner to say one kind thing to the other child every day for 30 days, knowing that this may change the other boys heart, but as importantly, it will change my son’s.

The New Concept of Love

We have friends who were unable to have kids on their own.  After many years of prayer, they have decided to adopt a 13 year old girl from the foster system. Her story before included family in drugs, abuse and her caring for her siblings as a young child. Everything she has known has been survival. Now, she has parents taking an interest in her and being a part of her life. They are providing her an opportunity to do things she has never done before like swimming and hiking. When there are issues  they sit down and talk about it. She now has parents who are loving her unconditionally, every minute of every day. They see the beauty and potential hidden beneath her surface. They know that love will be they key to the lock that is holding her hostage. And she is responding. Apologizing when she was short with her mom, and thanking her for talking things out instead of screaming at her. She is trying new things, even when it might be uncomfortable.  There is power in love.

In a world that is troubled, and often disappoints, I know that how we act and react speaks to the core of our character. As we move forward at my house, we will continue to believe that love has power. That love always wins. And that love starts with the man in the mirror.  Love is in action not words. It is not until we change ourselves, that love is able to change the world.

#thelifeinaday# #choosewisely#

 

Say Yes More

A dear friend recently lost his beautiful wife to a lengthy battle with cancer. I was never able to meet her, but from what I have heard, she was a beautiful soul. She had a love for God, her family and her friends, and she loved her boys with passion. My parents have been following the journey of a family whose teenage son was critically injured in a car accident. Lives can  change in an instant, can’t they.

Fifteen months ago I began to have a joint pain. Then it was accompanied by muscle pain. Then came the fatigue. Physically, I got up every day and trudged through the motions, but mentally, I was tired and sad. Then I stopped sleeping.  There were many days that it was difficult for me to get from the bed to my desk and every movement was painful. There were so many times that Conner wanted to go and do something and I had to say no. It was not a good time for me. In July of this year I started taking some supplements that changed everything. My pain disappeared. I was able to get up and do things again. I started sleeping and my energy came back. I started saying yes again.

Since I have started to feel better I am trying to say yes more. Yes to movies on the couch, yes to hikes in Ute Valley, yes to spending time with my boys. Recently Conner asked if I wanted to go to the YMCA with him and swim.  My initial reaction was to tell him no. It was, after all my only day off. And I am a mom… with a soft, squishy mom body….. and I am not extra fond of swimsuits. But then I started to wonder what I might miss if I didn’t go. So I said yes.

We got to the Y, and as I watched his first lap I noticed that he is swimming much faster. He is pulling more with his arms and his kicking has gotten much stronger. I noticed that all the advice Coach Danny is giving him is being applied. We swam laps for almost two hours. We had races to see who could swim faster, him doing freestyle or me with fins and a kick board. We laughed. We competed to see who could hold their breath longer. He won. And we laughed. Then he watched me swim and told me how to do it better. HE coached ME! And we laughed a whole lot more. Then, on the way out, he put his arm around me (I love that he still does that) and said, “Mom, I am so glad you came with me. This was a lot of fun!” My heart skipped a few beats and I was so glad that I said yes.

Start to pay attention to how often you say no. I was doing it more than I thought I was. Then say yes more. Let the laundry pile up today, and let the dishes sit. Say yes to playing with your kids. Say yes to that movie. Say yes to cuddling on the couch. Say yes to the park. Put on the swimsuit, squishy and all, and say yes to the pool at the Y. Because they are only this age for a little while. They are only at home for a little while. And they are amazing little human beings! Notice how fast they are. How smart they are. How witty they are. When you lay your head down on the pillow at night…. no regrets. Not what you should have done. But what you did. Say yes more. Because lives can change in an instant. Say yes today. This is the life in your day!!

#thelifeinaday#

Hello World!!!

Hello world!  🤗

I am so excited that you stopped by to check out my blog! This blog is going to be an adventure. A journey for all of us. Through life, love, marriage, parenthood, jobs,  extracurricular activities, carpools, dinners, travel, family, friendships, and so much more!  Here I will share lessons, some big, some small, trials, joys, faith, recipes, and the challenges in today’s world of living in the present, for today.

So I’m sure you are wondering who I am. My name is Shannon Alford. I am a wife to Mark for almost 12 years👰🏻, a mom to Conner who is about to turn 11🚶🏼, and a pediatric nurse for almost 25 years👩🏻‍⚕️. I live in beautiful Colorado Springs and feel pretty blessed to have such an incredible backdrop to our lives.🏔 ( Now if I could just get music piped in at just the right times! )  We have 2 dogs🐶🐶, a shi-poo (shihtzu/poodle) named Pollie, and a Shi-chi (shihtzu/chihuahua) named Bitsie. I am crazy busy most days, but I love to write, and this is the perfect outlet for me to share my life with you, and what I learn from each day. I hope that as we get to know each other, that we can become friends and connect on some level.

So the name of this blog is something that has been difficult for me, but one that I am trying to learn to embrace. I want to be more present in each day. Not let the moments pass me by. Embrace and hang onto each hug, each laugh, each story. I am trying to create memories with the people that I love and fill their love tanks while I have the opportunity.  To put my head on the pillow at night and know that I have loved fiercely, shown kindness and given myself completely. To spend time with God who fills my soul and helps me keep going. To not forget that I am important too and that some days, I am the only one who can take care of me. This is a concept that I had never really thought about. But the more I pondered this, the more I realized that most of my married life I have been trying so hard to plan out our future, that I was missing the things happening right now. Do you do this? Have you ever really thought about it?? I don’t want to just experience a day in my life. I want to experience the life  in my day.

So I invite you on this journey. You will discover my flaws 😳as well as my strengths 🙃 and I promise not every day will be easy, but I know that living this way means every day will be worth it. I want to hear from you.📱💻✉️  I want to hear your stories.📕 I hope we can learn from this life together. Do you have your walking shoes on?👟 (Notice I said walking shoes because we are going to stop running through this life😍)   Come walk beside me in this on this road. Let’s experience the life in our days together!

See you soon!!!

Shannon

 

 

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